Anonymous asked:

If someone has newly revealed to you, and you slip up and use a she instead of he (or vice versa) what's the best way to say you're sorry and feel disgustingly horrible for saying it

QUIP - Quick, Understanding, In Private.

Ask the person to talk privately, recognize what you did, apologize, and move the hell on. People too often make the apology about yourself and not about apologizing. Just say “I’m sorry I used the wrong pronouns, that was shitty of me, I’m working on it.” If it’s too awkward to ask them to speak in private, apologize right when you screw up, correct yourself, and then MOVE ON. Often, apologizing in a group can bring up anxieties about being outed, so the smart thing to do is just two words, “-sorry! She …” and then continue with what you were saying.

Anonymous asked:

So just because I do not know the correct pronouns, and that it seems everyone continues to make up new ones (Seriously, Cis?) that makes me sexist? That makes me Scum? You know, Sexism does not apply only to men who objectify women. I believe that a True Sexist is someone who finds fault in someones sex/sexual orientation. What you are doing is sexist. No one is automatically going to know the right pronoun, especially if you make it up on tumblr.

Cis isn’t a pronoun, friend. It’s a description. The fact that you didn’t know that (or that it comes from science and Latin, not from out of one of our asses) means you should do a little research into trans issues before you go to a rant page made for people to vent and make it all about you.

ebony-lotus asked:

If there has ever been a cesspool of hypocrisy and bigotry, as much as those words are over used, that cesspool would be here. If there is any type of person that I will ever hate, it will be the kind that drowns themselves in this false reality that you've created. 90% of you are not even Transvestites, you're all simply playing make believe just to get attention. Not even 9% of the population of the WORLD are Trans. Your honeyed words mean nothing.

Anonymous asked:

I've had someone tell me that if I bring a guy home and find out he has a vagina, I can't deny him sex. Do you agree? Because I think its wrong. I have the right to say no whenever I want. I can't help that I like dick, why do I have to do it then?

You have the right to say no whenever you want. Anything else is nothing short of rape. Period.

Whether or not your refusal comes from transphobia is not an issue when asking whether or not you have the ability to remove consent at any time. And I don’t even think you’re really being transphobic - liking/not liking a body part is just a matter of preference. Just ask yourself this - would you date a trans guy who had a penis? If you still wouldn’t, then it isn’t the guy’s biology that’s changing your opinion and you want to do some deep thinking on why that is. If not, you’re not being transphobic, you just have a preference for dick.

Regardless, you can tell whoever is telling that to you that I’d like to explain to them what rape is and what rape culture is.

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simulatedcity:

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tofutits:

This is so FUCKING SCARY

what the fuck is going on

THIS IS THE ONLY TIME I WILL EVER SAY THIS. NO MATTER WHAT KIND OF BLOG YOU ARE RUNNING REBLOG THIS. THIS CRAP NEEDS TO BE KNOWN. NEEDS TO BE SEEN. AND NEEDS TO BE SPREAD.THIS IS HAPPENING IN MY STATE AND IT IS FUCKING TERRIFYING. LET IT BE KNOWN. DON’T STOP SPREADING THE NEWS. MAKE EVERYONE SEE THE SHIT THAT IS GOING DOWN. Please. No body else seems to be protecting them anymore. Do what you can.

Anonymous asked:

In America, tho closest thing to oppression is the people as a whole by a corrupt government, and our government is somewhat good compared to other ones

… seriously? Have you seen a newspaper recently? Our government is spying on it’s citizens, actively killing people of color and letting trans/LGB people die in the streets. Homelessness and poverty are being ignored systematically, rape culture is the basis of law, a massive lack of basic medical coverage extends beyond expensive emergency medicine options and our social welfare net is so full of holes that a lot of the time it does more harm then good; these are day to day realities for non-white cis males, and even in some cases for them too. And THEN you get to the fucked up things that people are doing to trans people, and the government’s mix of ignoring and participating doesn’t seem to help the problem much.

And that’s just on a good day.

Not to mention IT DOESN’T NEED TO COME FROM THE GOVERNMENT FOR IT TO BE OPPRESSIVE. Society itself can be oppressive. So even if the government wasn’t oppressive, we’re still under the boot.

So no, I won’t and can’t agree with this statement.

Anonymous asked:

Just in case you have not noticed the world runs on pronouns set in the English language... Not pronouns that you just pull out of your ass

Most of the world doesn’t speak English.

And if you trace back the roots, all language is pulled directly from someone’s ass as a way to set definitions for common things.

Why is a chair called a chair and not a flambi or a sitty place or anything else? Because someone decided (i.e. pulled out of their ass) to call it a chair. Chair comes from Old French, Chaere. But it didn’t come from Latin before that (cathedra is the word in Latin). And it didn’t come from german either (in German, Stuhl). Someone decided, a long time ago, that the word for chair would be Chaere and the only reason was “because I say so.” And it happened to catch on.

English is just an amalgam of other languages. So it’s roots are so old that it sometimes has problematic things included with it. There is a lot of things wrong with English and unfortunately it didn’t include pronoun sets for all the people around because people who said they weren’t a boy or a girl were commonly lit on fire (speaking of dictionaries, go look up why gay people are called ‘F*gs’ and you’ll know what I’m talking about).

And do you know why it’s called Old French? Because they changed things to suit the needs of the people.

So no, pronouns are already pulled out of someone’s ass and I’m not going to sit here and tell people who feel a lot better knowing their identities are being validated that they should stop this wonderful evolution of the English language.

wowswagmemesbruh asked:

You realize that this page is a joke right? It's just well off middle classed people who make up fantasies about themselves. "CIS" is not a thing. "CIS" is normal.

EDIT: This is a safe place for trans folks and a lot of people were triggered by the use of the word Moron. This isn’t a place to debate whether or not it’s a slur, it’s a place for trans folks to rant. So …