Dear Cis People
Just because I’m not sure about my gender, doesn’t mean you don’t have to respect my pronouns.
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'Dear Cis People' is a place for trans people to send an anonymous message to the cis population as a whole. It is meant to be a means of opening a communication line from people who are often silenced, either inadvertently or otherwise. Submit whatever you want, but while honest anger will come through, a small amount of discretion for certain things has been given to the admin. Control has been handed over to Amy, an LGBT activist and trans woman. All messages are anonymous.
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Just because I’m not sure about my gender, doesn’t mean you don’t have to respect my pronouns.
Anonymous asked:
No, no it’s not. You are arguing semantics. Poisoning doesn’t mean it’s always poisonous. Water can poison you if you drink too much of it. And in my body, I’ll say it again, testosterone has poisoned parts of me. It might not have in you but it was supposed to be there with you. It wasn’t supposed to be there for me. So for me it was poisonous.
megastfusocialjustice2 asked:
Oh, I love teaching about this!
No, see, your body is constantly regrowing, and when trans women go on hormones, all of their secondary sexual characteristics start changing. Breasts begin to develop, muscles develop along feminine lines, etc. With surgery, your physical sex can change as well.
There are people born with xx chromosomes who are male. There are people who are born with xy chromosomes who are female. Genetics isn’t the clean cookie cutter that it’s made out to be on TV shows - it’s actually this fascinatingly complex codex for your body, and there are estimates that approximately 10% of the population is actually genetically a chimera (genetically mixed, also known as a mosaicism) because of a multitude of things a womb does naturally to produce a baby.
It’s important to remember that, biologically speaking, sex presents itself on a spectrum. Men even have more manly and less manly, more testosterone and less testosterone, women have more estrogen and less estrogen. Some women have to take the same hormones I take and they are xx females.
So remember, this idea you have of male and female bodies is really antiquated and needs to be examined. Bathrooms should be based on gender, not sex, because it’s about the groups you feel comfortable around, and that has nothing to do with the physical sex of the people you are around.
Anonymous asked:

Anonymous asked:
I have an answer for you, but you aren’t going to like it:
There’s no way to do this but to do it. It’s like taking a band-aid off. There is no easy way of removing a band aid. You just have to rip it off and do it quickly. And there’s no way to tell your mom in a way she’s guaranteed to understand, but I can help you shoot down some common arguments. The following are all quotes you could say to your parents. They could be modified easily to work in the other direction.
"God made you a girl."
God made me a person and the Doctors decided, based on my body, that I was a girl. But your body is sometimes an obstacle that you have to get over, that God puts in your path so you can get stronger. See any other medical condition on the planet.
"You haven’t brought this up before."
I’ve been forming this thought in my own mind for a while but it’s only been clear to me for X years/months. I fought it at first because I didn’t want it to be true but it’s killing me inside and it’s the truth.
"Why would you want to get rid of your beautiful body?"
I’m not getting rid of it. There are just a few adjustments I’d like to make to accurately portray my gender.
"But it isn’t natural!"
Gender is an invention we placed on ourselves. Traditional gender roles are commonly changed or challenged in a variety of different species. It’s not always the same kind of relationships, animals often express themselves in ways that differ from the rest of their biological sex. Not to mention that intersex people are a thing, and their very existence throws the whole concept of traditional gender’s supposed base in biology into question.
"You’ll never be accepted as a boy/you won’t be able to go as far as a trans boy as you will as a cis girl."
Well, too bad. I am a trans boy. And regardless, you’re forgetting about the amazing advances that trans people have gone through in recent years. Trans men are all over the place, and I honestly think once I transition it’ll be a lot easier for me to accomplish ANYTHING because I won’t have this massive weight on my shoulders.
I hope that helps!
megastfusocialjustice2 asked:
Well I’ll take your marketing advice under advisement but I disagree, and so do six thousand followers.
When you say “Dear Cis People”, the people whose ears prick up are:
Seriously, you have better things to be doing with your time then losing an argument with a trans woman over why her project is named the way it is. Trans folks are regularly the bottom of the totem pole, you could just as easily be spending your time trying to actually help trans folks.
the wrong pronouns hurt, but not as much as being told that the singular they isnt grammatically correct
Anonymous asked:
Non-binary folks are totally welcome.
megastfusocialjustice2 asked:

You shouldn’t have to out yourself when you use the bathroom, regardless of how safe it is, because it’s disrespectful. It’s nobody’s business that you’re trans.
Liking men and being a man is not a contradiction, gay people exist, so do transgender gay people