'Dear Cis People' is a place for trans people to send an anonymous message to the cis population as a whole. It is meant to be a means of opening a communication line from people who are often silenced, either inadvertently or otherwise. Click or scroll down start reading, or a read the rules by clicking here.
So, funny story:
Remember that time I posted about how I was going to start posting regularly? Yeah it’s not happening, not for a little bit. My old work rig is dying, and my current work rig isn’t actually MY work rig, it’s not portable and it’s not something I can do personal/outside work on.
Ask A Trans Woman I can do on my tablet, but Dear Cis People will take a week or two to get back to normal.
… in other words, I’ll get back to making posts when I get something I can work on.
matttdemarcoo asked: It's rude of you to delete asks and make someones opinions invalid on your blog
First of all, this is a blog for venting. If you want to talk I’d recommend sending messages to Ask A Trans Woman instead (that’s the blog where I answer questions about trans stuff.)
Secondly - my apologies, I didn’t delete it. That must have been a glitch. I actually wanted to make that rebloggable. I’m not sure why it deleted.
matttdemarcoo asked: I really don't mean to be rude, just it seems that it would be better if, instead of calling out all cis people in the title of your blog and such, if you called out cissexists. It would probably offend a lot less people.
Considering the content of the post, I think being offended by the name is kind of indicative of a terrible line of thought. The world doesn’t need to bow to you.
This is not a place of activism. This is not here to convince you that transgender people deserve to be treated decently or to educate you about gender identity.
This is survival.
This is people who are close to suicide ranting. Screaming into a pillow as a way of reducing stress.
I want you to think about this - forty five percent of trans people will attempt suicide at some point in their lives. Forty five. That’s nearly half of the transgender people in the world killing themselves. There are MUCH bigger problems then someone getting slightly offended that they are called out on a blog known to call out all cis people and occasionally some of the posts don’t talk about things you do.
There are going to be some that are talking about you, though. Some that - even as a good ally - you didn’t know. We’re all human. If you’re offended, great! Make sure you’re not like that. But understand that when the vast majority of people around you are a threat to your well being, then saying “people like these people” is a generalization and accurate, if not absolute.
Also, if you need any more advise, I have another blog for that! Ask A Trans Woman is what you’re looking for.
viceroys-booty asked: hello! there's a question i would like to ask; i should start off by saying that i'm a pansexual cis female. i completely accept trans people for who they are, and what gender they identify as. i also love to help anybody who has gender confusion (no, i'm not one of those people who suggest them to go with what gender they were born as; i just say do what feels right to you) why is this pointed towards all cis people, when there are some accepting ones like myself who don't hate trans people?
This is answered in my FAQ on Ask A Trans Woman. If you need more information or still don’t understand after reading what I’ve already written on this topic, send me a message.
So, everything’s changed.
We’re now in Boston. I’m no longer working with Planned Parenthood, I have a job working with Bose as a technologist and I’m working on two projects: a kickstarter movie/internet TV show (with a largely LGBT cast - what can I say, you write what you know), and I’m starting a non-for-profit focused on spreading awareness about a variety of issues, starting with a transgender awareness campaign.
I have received a lot of wonderful messages, great questions, and otherwise solid posts. Tomorrow, there is going to start being regular posts on my platforms, and I’m going to get to them tomorrow. But tonight I need sleep.
Thank you so much to everyone who has been following these projects and providing helpful advise or other support. You guys have kept me up, even with my spastic posting schedule. Thank you for your support. I want to see this grow.
Let’s get this shit started. Let’s change the world.
Dear Cis People:
I do not ‘go on about gender’. You go on about gender. I correct you when you misgender me, sure, and then we have a conversation where you argue grammar and/or convenience and I have to explain dysphoria for the hundredth time and then on the odd occasion when I have an opinion about gender, what with fast becoming an expert on it, you tell me I’m ‘going on about it’. Piss off.